Honeymoon Do's and Don't's

Hey there!  Just your neighborhood bloggers here!  Not only do we want to make sure that you have an awesome wedding, but we want to make sure you have an awesome honeymoon too!  So, we’ve put together 10 tips for a successful honeymoon!

1. Be aware of cost.  

Even though you two just got married and your finances might be merged (or not), you should still ease into spending your joint money.  There’s nothing worse than feeling like your finances are being taken advantage of, and we are sure that your partner will appreciate the consideration (and vice versa).  You also just spent a ton of money on the wedding, and will likely being buying a house, having kids, sending them to college, etc. so maybe start slow.  Did you know: the average cost of a honeymoon is around $10,000, so plan accordingly.

2. Activity Filled or Relaxing Vacay?

Decide ahead of time if you want an active or relaxing vacation.  Perhaps you are the adventurous type and you’ll want to go hiking or touring or try adventure sports.  Or perhaps you are the beach type and want to go to the spa, or tan, or sleep in.  The better communication you have about your expectations and what you want from the honeymoon the better.

3. Consider how much time off you should take.

Relatedly, you’ll want to communicate ahead of time the expectation for time spent together.  Of course, your honeymoon is a great time to really go all-in, but you don’t have to do everything together.  If there’s something you want to do that he doesn’t, talk it out and maybe go alone.  Neither of you want to miss out on experiences nor hold the other back.  Maybe you’ll even want to discuss how social of a couple you will be.  Likely, you’ll run into other honeymooning couples.  Do you want to double date?  Or do you prefer to spend time alone?

4. Take your time!

Bust the myth that the honeymoon has to start immediately.  Sometimes it is inconvenient or nearly impossible for the two of you to go on vacation right after the wedding.  You may want to wind down from the festivities and get settled into your home together before jet-setting.  And it is possible that the vacation that you two really want to go on will be better in a couple months time when you have the money, or the season is just right, or when you can get a reservation.

5. Stay-cations are cool too!

It doesn’t have to be far away.  If there is a favorite place that you like nearby, that is totally suitable for a honeymoon.  It could be a state park, or a major metropolitan area a couple hours’ drive away.

6. Plan based on what you want.

It doesn’t have to be long. The average length of a honeymoon is one week.  This does not mean that a weekend or a long weekend getaway can’t count as a honeymoon.  You don’t have to take a honeymoon at all.  Maybe you want to just get right back in the swing of things.  Maybe you just want one day to unwind.  Don’t follow the norms when it comes to what you and your partner want.

7. Plan for your time off.

Make arrangements for when you are gone.  Just like any vacation, make sure that you have your house taken care of: pets, plants, kids, bills, mail, newspapers.  You definitely don’t want to come back from your magical getaway to find that all of your plants are dead.

8. Be flexible!

Again, just like any vacation, be amenable.  Just like your wedding day, don’t let the little things ruin the whole experience.  This is a major time of adjustment for you two -you are now part of a two-person operation.  Take advantage of that and each other’s strengths to make the best of situations.  Missing the bus in the rain will make a good story later, we promise.

9. Don’t give in to pressure.

You don’t have to pack a bunch of new cute clothes, or look perfect at all times.  It’s unrealistic to think that you can go the rest of your life without your partner seeing you without makeup and it is even crazier to think that he married you for superficial reasons.  You probably won’t be put-together and romantic and storybook for the entirety of your honeymoon, let alone your marriage.  You’ll have good days and bad days and he’s going to love you through all of them.

10. Have fun!  

Honeymoons are a once or twice in a lifetime experience, but also know that it’s not the last time that you’ll ever go on vacation together.  You will have other chances to check things off your bucket list together and maybe you’ll revisit your honeymoon location for some anniversary down the road.

We hope that we’ve been helpful!  Have a great time and take lots of pictures!